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It didn't take long at all to meet a wonderful man that I immediately knew I wanted a relationship with. Things were different this time around, I didn't have the same carefree confidence that I had when I was in my 20s so I doubted my every move.

Mistake number one was I started reading dating books - I devoured everything I could find to tell me what I was supposed to do to keep a good man in my life. There were so many rules, play hard to get, make him chase you, don't have sex too soon, don't tell him about your past relationships, don't seem insecure or needy, don't cook for him too soon, don't answer the phone every time they call, and most importantly never say I love you first. I wondered what was allowed besides standing in a corner acting aloof but they're the "experts" so they must be right.

The first rule I broke was cooking. I like to cook and I love to cook for other people. Its always been something I did for people in my life. I love a good meal at home with good company. I've always found men to be appreciative of a good home cooked meal and it just gives me a lot of pleasure when people enjoy what I have prepared. Guess what, he didn't run out the door screaming after our first meal. He in fact loved it and is excited every time I invite him to dinner. I've not only cooked for him, I've cooked for his kids and they love it even more than he does. I spend even more time with him now just because they all love me to come over and cook a good meal.

The next rule I broke I had to learn by almost loosing him. I tried to not always be available but what ended up happening is that he started to think I wasn't interested. He started asking me if I even wanted a relationship with him. Come to find out this man had feelings and also liked to know that the woman he cared about was excited to talk to him and wanted to spend time with him. That knocked out 1/2 the rules I've been given. I hated those rules anyway - life's too short to not talk to the people you care about.

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The hardest rules were not sharing my past or my own insecurities. Come to find out, if a man knows nothing about you he also doesn't know how to treat you. How is he to know that a certain behavior really bothers you if you never let him see the weaker side of you? This one was the hardest because its the one I broke down on emotionally. I kept all my past and my insecurities locked down so deeply that one bad night after a couple of glasses of wine, they all just came spewing out. Luckily for me the man I care for took the time to listen to me and to understand. Emotions will eventually come out the trick is to find a way to let them out positively. For me if I hold them in they typically come out in a negative way.